15 Tips to stay Positive in negative situations.

There are times when we must go through negative situations. Maybe people say something negative about us, or they show rejection or even resentment against us. In such situations, it may be difficult to stay positive. We may be inclined to react negatively to them. That won’t do us any good though; doing so will just make the situation worse. People may behave even more negatively to us. Our day would be filled with anger and disappointment. At the end, nobody wins.
Though it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive.

Here are 15 tips on how to do it; pick the ones that work for you:

1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
2. Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.
3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
5. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.
12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have a quote of the day.
14. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
15. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

  By. Donald Latumahina

How To Better Control Your Emotions.

By becoming aware of your emotions in the Earth school — anger, fear, love, and more — you can begin the process to heal. From The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness, by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis

Imagine a boy who sells newspapers on a city corner, holding the latest edition above his head and shouting the headline. That is what happens when you experience an emotion. The more important the headline is, the stronger the emotion is. Keeping current with the news is something that you have to decide to do, but the newspaper boy is always shouting the latest headline.

The next day, he will be waiting for you with another headline. When you turn on your television, it will show you the same headline. You can turn off the television and cancel your subscription to the newspaper, but you cannot turn off or cancel your emotions. Even if you are not aware of your emotions, they are always being produced inside you. The energy that flows through your energy system never stops, and your energy system never stops functioning.

Each emotion has different characteristics. Anger disappears more quickly than jealousy. The need for revenge is more persistent than jealousy. Some emotions come more frequently than others, and some stay longer than others. This flow of emotions is like a shower. The shower of your emotions continues until you leave the Earth school — until you die. It is a flow that never stops, whether you pay attention to it or not. You may daydream for a while, but sooner or later you wake up in the shower.
Your emotions always return, too. Each time they show you where and how energy is being processed in your energy system. When you understand that system, you will know why you are experiencing an emotion and how you can change it, if you want to change it.

Your emotional landscape is unique, just as your body, aptitudes, and interests are unique. It is like your fingerprint, except that it is more familiar because you experience it continually. It is so familiar that you might think that everyone’s emotional landscape is like yours. That is not correct.
You may become angry easily, another person may become frightened, and yet another may become jealous. You may shout when you are angry. Some people withdraw and become silent. Some people are frightened to be alone. They need to be in the company of others to feel safe. Some people are frightened when they are with others. They need to be alone to feel safe. Some people need to talk. They become frightened when they are silent. Others need to listen. They become frightened when they speak.
As you become aware of your emotions, you also become aware of your curriculum in the Earth school. In other words, the emotions in your emotional landscape are your particular course of study in the Earth school. Everyone in the Earth school takes the same course — authentic power — but different students need to take different classes in order to complete it.

Every painful emotion is a class. If you are angry, you are in that class. If you are jealous, you are in that class. If you are angry and jealous, you are in both classes. Not every class on anger is the same, and not every class on jealousy is the same. Becoming emotionally withdrawn when you are angry is one class. Becoming bossy and loud when you are angry is another. Every healthy emotion, such as appreciation, gratitude, contentment, and joy, is also a class. There are different ways of experiencing each of these emotions, too, and each of them is yet another class.

The Earth school has more classes than can be printed in a catalog. You do not need to take all of them. You are automatically enrolled in certain classes when you enter the Earth school—when you are born. You graduate from a class when you understand what you need to know about that particular emotion. When you complete your assigned classes, you are given the opportunity to choose other classes. For example, you are allowed to enroll in the joy class after you have completed the anger and jealousy classes. You may have glimpses of the joy class before you graduate from the anger and jealousy classes, but you will not be able to study joy full-time until you do. You are allowed to enroll in the gratitude class after you have completed the sadness class, and so on.

There are two types of classes in the Earth school — classes about fear and classes about love. Anger, vengefulness, sadness, and greed are classes about fear. Joy and gratitude are classes about love. When you begin to see your emotions in this way, all of the circumstances that you encounter in your life will become meaningful to you. You begin to look at them all as circumstances that are perfect for bringing your attention to inner dynamics that you need to examine and change. These are your painful emotions.

LIST YOUR CLASSES
Take some time to look inside yourself and see what classes you are enrolled in (for example, anger, sorrow, jealousy, rage, fear, vengefulness, resentfulness, appreciation, gratitude, contentment, joy, etc.).
Make a list. Notice whether these classes are about fear or about love. If you are brave enough, do this with a friend.

Your emotions become the focus of your attention, not the people or circumstances that appear to be causing your emotions. Instead of being angry at an individual or circumstance — or depressed, jealous, or frightened — be grateful that they have brought particular emotions to your attention. Instead of trying to change circumstances or people, examine the emotions you are experiencing.
These emotions come from inside you, not from outside. They come as old friends. You may think that your anger is justified, but if you look at your anger instead of the injustice that you think causes it, you will see that your anger is very familiar. You have felt the same way at other times and in other places with other people in other circumstances. The times, places, people, and circumstances change, but your anger does not. Nor does your sadness, vengefulness, or fear.
When you make this connection you are in a position to change your life. You cannot change all of the people that make you angry, jealous, or sad, but you can change yourself. When you know how to do that, how other people speak or act is not as important to you as how you respond to them. Trying to change others when you are angry is the same as trying to change your reflection in a mirror. You can rage at your reflection as long as you wish, but until you change what is being reflected, your rage will not leave.


Looking inward instead of focusing on outward circumstances is an important step in the process of spiritual development. When you take it you begin the process of shifting your goal from the pursuit of external power — the ability to manipulate and control — to the pursuit of authentic power — the alignment of your personality with your soul.
Imagine yourself as a student. You are in a school that is always in session. You have a special tutor who ensures that you are taught exactly what you need to learn. The tutor takes into account what you already know and what you have accomplished previously. Your tutor is patient, wise, and compassionate. You choose how quickly or slowly you will learn. Your tutor works intimately with you, and utilizes every one of your decisions to provide experiences that offer you the greatest potential to move forward in your education.

BE A STUDENT
Every morning when you wake up, remind yourself that you are a student in the Earth school, and that everything that happens this day is to help you learn.
Every night go over all the things that happened in school. Did you remember that you were in school? How often did you remember? What classes did you attend today? (Anger, joy, jealousy, sorrow, etc.)

The Universe is your tutor. Your classroom is your life. Everything that happens within it is part of your custom-crafted curriculum. You cannot fail this school. Sooner or later you will graduate from it. You can ignore your assignments, and take the same classes as many times as you choose. You can also apply yourself and accelerate your process.
By becoming aware of your emotions, you wake up as a student in the Earth school. You have been a student in the Earth school since you were born. Your emotions show you what to work on next. Your task as a student in the Earth school is not to change your parents, boss, employees, or classmates. It is to change yourself.
  
From the book, The Heart of the Soul By Zukav, Gary/ Francis, Linda (Google Affiliate Ad), by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis  Click blue link to view book.